A struggle between a daughter and a daughter in law .

A women, who is she ?  a human being or merely a puppet  for her family? Is  she a born perfectionist or  learner like other human in her growing ages  ?

 May be the whom u going to  marry   will be working lady,   and if you going  to  marry her keep these points in your mind.


She is a girl, who is as much educated as you are; Who is earning almost as much as you do or even can more 

  

One, who has lots of  dreams and aspirations just as you have because she is as human as you are;
She has the same thinking and imagination power as  you have.
 One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you because  she was busy in studies and competing in a system ,She was too busy like you in making her carrier. She too wants too  fulfill the dreams of her parents  same as you wants to fulfill. One, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, same as you do, for 20-25 years of her life;  One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home,her family, her those four corners where she  lives such a long time , her  childhood things and toys , the people without whom she  can't  live  a single night ,the people who has taken  care  for her all needs  and demands till the age you get her  in your life , just  to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family's name .

She is the one who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day 1, while you sleep  in the morning . forgetting the fact that she too used to sleep at this time in her  earlier home with full comforts  as you have. One, who is expected to make the tea, first thing in the morning and cook food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more, and yet never ever expected to complain; to be a servant, a cook, a mother, a wife, and a daughter in law .even if she doesn't want to; and is learning just like you are as to what you want from her. She is always afraid   when she enters in her new home that whether the family will accept her or not  ? will be she a  good   daughter in law and a wife for these  known strangers ? She has always one thing in her mind that " God don't let me do a single mistake    here   because  i m a daughter in law now not a daughter . One, who has her own group pf  of friends and best friends , and that includes boys and even men at her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days , having a great intimacy level with them and yet is willing to put all  away from  her new life for  avoiding  your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities; One, who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines from her boss has been given to her which she has to meet  , just like yours, are to be met;  One  who was a damn rigid immature stupid ,dumb and a kiddish  girl for her parents , brother sisters  and her best friend, but still she  obeys all yous orders from the  day  she  got fixed her name with you   forgetting  all her rigidity  and stupidness. Because she  knows  that now her immaturity will be considered as mistake. One, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important, relationship in her entire life a grand success, if you just help her , understand her  and trust her; One, who just wants these  thing from you, as you are the only one she knows in your entire house - your support, your sensitivities, your understanding, your love,  your patience if you may call it. But not many guys understand this...... Please appreciate "HER" No human being can do so much sacrifices except  women  do, just  for making her family   happy ...   :-)