A struggle between a daughter and a daughter in law .

A women, who is she ?  a human being or merely a puppet  for her family? Is  she a born perfectionist or  learner like other human in her growing ages  ?

 May be the whom u going to  marry   will be working lady,   and if you going  to  marry her keep these points in your mind.


She is a girl, who is as much educated as you are; Who is earning almost as much as you do or even can more 

  

One, who has lots of  dreams and aspirations just as you have because she is as human as you are;
She has the same thinking and imagination power as  you have.
 One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you because  she was busy in studies and competing in a system ,She was too busy like you in making her carrier. She too wants too  fulfill the dreams of her parents  same as you wants to fulfill. One, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, same as you do, for 20-25 years of her life;  One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home,her family, her those four corners where she  lives such a long time , her  childhood things and toys , the people without whom she  can't  live  a single night ,the people who has taken  care  for her all needs  and demands till the age you get her  in your life , just  to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family's name .

She is the one who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day 1, while you sleep  in the morning . forgetting the fact that she too used to sleep at this time in her  earlier home with full comforts  as you have. One, who is expected to make the tea, first thing in the morning and cook food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more, and yet never ever expected to complain; to be a servant, a cook, a mother, a wife, and a daughter in law .even if she doesn't want to; and is learning just like you are as to what you want from her. She is always afraid   when she enters in her new home that whether the family will accept her or not  ? will be she a  good   daughter in law and a wife for these  known strangers ? She has always one thing in her mind that " God don't let me do a single mistake    here   because  i m a daughter in law now not a daughter . One, who has her own group pf  of friends and best friends , and that includes boys and even men at her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days , having a great intimacy level with them and yet is willing to put all  away from  her new life for  avoiding  your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities; One, who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines from her boss has been given to her which she has to meet  , just like yours, are to be met;  One  who was a damn rigid immature stupid ,dumb and a kiddish  girl for her parents , brother sisters  and her best friend, but still she  obeys all yous orders from the  day  she  got fixed her name with you   forgetting  all her rigidity  and stupidness. Because she  knows  that now her immaturity will be considered as mistake. One, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important, relationship in her entire life a grand success, if you just help her , understand her  and trust her; One, who just wants these  thing from you, as you are the only one she knows in your entire house - your support, your sensitivities, your understanding, your love,  your patience if you may call it. But not many guys understand this...... Please appreciate "HER" No human being can do so much sacrifices except  women  do, just  for making her family   happy ...   :-)

MY 3 STRENGTH

I am 23... and still i remeber the days  which passed by in my life with lots of joy , happness , sorrow , struggles....i have seen a drastic change in my life ....these changes have made the present Mrinal , a better   and best Mrinal :) . i was the first daughter of my family, before me there was no girls in my family.... that was the  only reason  why i was brought by my family with atmost care  n affection ...the love which my family showed me  from my chilhood made me soo emotional person., i am addicted to love. Its a nice feeling when we see our loved ones taking care of us in our need.that is the feeling which comes in me when i see my mom, dad and bro .

                            I am the murmery reflection of my Maa. Always scold me ,  , don't do like this , don't do like that, look at me , tumhe samjh nahi ata hai kya ek bar batane se :D.... do i do like this... hahahaha ,,, she is an struggling lady ... Maa is my idol. She gave me strength to fight with the problems. she never give up her hope....she has fought a lot for the things she has today in her life...and still fighting  and trying to  give us hapiness anyhow.

                                My father , wat to say about him,  angry person like me  or vice-versa  :P  but today life moulded him in some other character. he used to be very strong , but now he is very weak, he used to give us hope , but today he himself is hopeless.... don't know why ,  May be because  god wants him to change. now a days  he is stuggling  for his life. it feels so bad  when u see ur strength getting weak at times.... our strength is  getting weak nowadays ... 

                              and last but not the least   my Brother.wat shud i say about him...  A person whom i am always greatfull for atleast replying to my questions.... very silent  person... don't do much bakk bakk like me ... very calm  n cool  by nature .Expressionless person ...noone can know wat is going in his mind  and what he is going to do in the next moment ... we both always have a cold war with each other .  because  we  both are dam opposite of each other ... don't know how do we live together :D  .. one cold war per day is fixed  by us in accordance with Maa 's scoldings :P :P 

My family ,  my biggest assest, my strength, and my life.... i am nothing without them ..... i love you all :) :)

Promise yourself.....

   ….

To be so strong that nothing
can disturb your peace of mind.To talk health, happiness,
to every person you meet.

To make all your friends feelthat there is something in them
they are special to you
To look at the positive  side of everything
and make your optimism come true.

To think only the best, to work only for the best,
and to expect only the best.
To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others
as you are about your own.

To forget the mistakes of the past
and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful  laugh  at all times
and give every living creature you meet a smile. :)

To give so much time to the improvement of yourself
that you have no time to criticize others. :)
To be too large for worry, too silent  for anger, too strong for fear,
and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world,
not in loud words but great deeds.
To live in faith that the whole world is on your side
so long as you are YOU to the best that is in you.
be true to yourself,and never lie to your soul

MY CHILDHOOD

I am not a big writer or some author of any book,i am just a simple  girl  still i like to write the things which are in mind ... i don't have anyone in my home to whom i can share my thoughts and feeling, so just for sharing my these thoughts and feeling , i write this somewhere, and consider that thing  as the closest part of my life . anything in a day which makes me sad , happy , excited or give me any sort of feelings , i use to jot down  in  my diary ....don't know why i feel so alone in my childhood despite the fact that  then also i have lots n lots of  friends... may be  because mrinal inside me was not much social at that time  or may be the people whom i called  my friend were actually consider me a known stranger . As far as i know myself i am at that time i was  bit shy type of gal,thinks that  people will  not be much interested in talking to me, n they 'll say some flat words to we if i'll try to talk to them.This was the strange thinking of the strange Mrinal of that time.... "world is not intrested in talking to Mrinal"